Boy-Girl Relationships

Look, a non-political title and its interesting too. Today, I will put my 2 cents about what I think of School Love or BGR as some would call it. Today's post will also be very neutral as I tend to be biased in my writing, especially issues I feel very strongly about.

A Boy-Girl relationship is the sexual attraction between a young male and a young female, technically before the age of 18 but commonly used to refer to love between students. It is completely natural for members of the opposite gender to feel attracted to each other; though it would most often be non-mutual. This feeling of being attracted is a natural biological mechanism installed on our sentient processing systems with the purpose of inducing sexual reproduction through the act of copulation. In short, "liking" is simply infatuation, just an urge to reproduce which young humans tend to mistake for a higher level emotion.

Being infatuated or being in puppy love is a device-level specie maintenance process is a feeling often confused with the mental-level emotion of love. Love is unconditional care and concern built around mutual understanding and extreme levels of trust. Infatuation however is simply a "feeling" that is frequently perceived as "love". Infatuation has a high likelihood of introducing "obsession" into the equation, which would lead to actions like stalking, harassment or intervention when a member of the same-sex attempts to communicate with the target in question. Such perceived feelings often create problems for the desired subject and diverts precious time and money from the infatuated into a cause often without benefit. Although genuine cases of true love does blossom during the course of study, the probability of such is certainly very low.

A boy-girl relationship can result in undesirable consequences, often ending in a situation where both sides experience an outcome of psychological trauma. Most students whom are infatuated would attempt to stalk, intimidate potential rivals, buy gifts, write love letters and help the subject whenever possible. However, if the subject turns down their "feelings", often they would seek to destroy anything related to said subject. In addition, both parties will be distracted from achieving their academic goals and often fail to report for their CCA; unless their CCA is the only way for them to meet. The worse part of this whole ordeal is that the probability of a negative "lose-lose" scenario is extremely high.

Participants in a student-age romance situation could have dire consequences in terms of the relationship between the subjects in question. A boy and a girl might be good friends whom have known each other for years and enjoy the same forms of entertainment. However, in a significant number of cases, such "friends" of dissimilar gender if engaged in a relationship might result in hatred instead of love. It is much harder for a boy and a girl to communicate when in a relation than when they were friends. Although if these "friends" of dissimilar gender could have a higher chance of developing "true love" if engaged in a relationship than ordinary couples, such a development could result in the end of a great friendship.

Though the idea of having a relationship while in the midst of being a young student has often been discouraged by demoralised elders, the benefits in the event that the relationships develop into true mutual love is of infinite unfathomable value. Having a lover meant a companion whom you could share your most inner thoughts with and lift your emotional burdens. A lover would also provide warmth and the cosy feeling when two humans hug or have skin contact. There would also meant that there will be someone whom can be trusted and bring happiness and joy to your life. However, those benefits are in the event that true mutual love exists between the two participants of a relationship. True mutual love is extremely hard to maintain in reality, it requires a immense amount of time, effort, attention, compatibility and serious amounts of luck.

BGR is a common element in dramas and novels, often it shows true mutual love or a devastated individual; usually the latter in reality. For those whom aim to reach the level of true mutual love, I only have a phrase for you: "I wish you a favourable statistical outcome".